I had a request to do a reading about a relationship that is having some problems. I was going to do it using the usual 4-card spread, but since I had time to do it (it was not face-to-face), I decided to try the Horoscope Spread again. Although big and (apparently) daunting, the truth is that this spread is very interesting.
My sitter, N., asked me about her relationship with U.
They have been together for 3 years and she feels that they are not as close as they used to be. She wonder if this is a prelude to an ending or just a temporary crisis. Should I continue to work on healing this relationship? was the question.
The first card I looked was the one in the 1st House, the 7♣ (The Sword of Enchantment). Not a bad card, it tells me that isn't completely hopeless about it... but it does give me the impression that she's waiting for a miracle. She's expecting that 'something' will appear and solve this situation for her.
We all know this usually doesn't work.But let's see what about her partner, U. He's represented by the 7th House, and there we find the 5♥ (Fata Morgana). At first this card seemed to scream that he's hiding something, but lets not rush into conclusions. This card can represent that he believes everything is fine - which is an illusion, since N. feels that something is wrong. So this card could represent denial. Also, this card presents a restless heart... even though he behaves as if all is well, inside himself his heart may not agree with this attitude... it feels that, indeed, something isn't right about their relationship. Something is missing.
We see that the two people involved seem to be caught in their own ideas. One hopes things will solve by themselves, the other believe all is well. But the fact both are represented by odd number shows that they both feel unstable in the relationship right now.
I decided then to look at the 8th House, because it concerns sexuality. There we find the 2♠ (The Enemies). I dare to say that their sexual life hasn't been very good... they are disagreeing in this level, and worst, this disagreement is kept hidden. They are not talking about it.
The 12th House is the house of secrets, hidden influences and difficulties, and with the 2♣ it shows that they are not being very objective in handling the issue raised by the 2♠. They are behaving like friends, not lovers, not daring to close the distance and use love to heal the problem. There's no real communication between them. This is reinforced by the 11♠ in the 3rd House (house of communication) - Pampero is not really talented with words. He's more a physical action guy... N. and U. are letting their actions speak for themselves. Action is good, but sometimes careful words are important to avoid misunderstandings.
The 7♥ in the 5th House - the House of romance and fun - tells me that they have been working hard to stay together and have fun together. We cannot say they have been completely careless about each other. They try, sincerely, to make things improve, but there's the problem of the 2♠ that they are not taking care of objectively.
So... my answer to N's question would be yes. I do not think their relationship is doomed - it's facing a crisis, probably originating from some unsaid sexual issues. Their love can heal itself, as shown by the 7♥, but they must take the matter into their hands. They need to use the sword of the 7 - it's not going to work alone. No miracle will fall from the sky if they don't do their part.
I suggest that she tries to talk to him about this. Maybe he has been sensing a problem too. If they can start to communicate again, there's a huge potential for healing.
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